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City of Angels

I just got finished watching a video produced by 30 Seconds to Mars about Los Angeles. The video included various cameos from famous people talking about what the city gave them, what people expect of them and how they feel about certain things. It was pretty amazing. It’s not often that we get to hear people on that level talk candidly about how they feel. The reason we hold these people to such high acclaim is most likely due to the fact that we believe that they all have it together. They seem to have everything. Hearing them talk like this is humbling and I welcome it.

Here is the video:

Though the video is most likely going to help some make the decision to move to Los Angeles it really got me thinking about how I never ended up moving from my home town. Despite the ups and downs of my life to date, I have stayed here in Modesto, CA. I didn’t have a perfect childhood and I definitely went down some paths that I should have known better than to have, but I am who I am now because of it. I have always been a self-starter and required very little motivation from those around me. I have been frustrated that there is not a community of people in my area that have a similar mindset I can relate to. I have found these communities, but they exist only in larger areas like the Bay Area or even Los Angeles.

Though in the past we were largely products of our environment, I don’t think that is the case in this time we currently live. Before, our neighborhoods were our community and they consisted of people of the same class and financial levels. Now we find ourselves segregated and more closely connected with “neighbors” who might be on the other side of town. We keep connected through text message and social media. Social Media allows me to connect with the kind of people who I relate to the most regardless of where they live. We follow each other and connect on things that we have joint interests in. Because these digital connections are easier to maintain than in-person connections, we can connect with people on more specific topics. It’s really quite interesting. I have had friends move to get away from situations or groups of friends that they felt were holding them back, but they just find those same kind of friends where they move. You have to change your circumstances and you can do that from any location, even your current one.

My earlier years before I was married and had kids, I wanted to move. I felt that if I moved, I could really start something and move forward. Being as connected as I was to the internet and digital world, I quickly realized that I could create what I wanted of myself from anywhere. All I needed was my laptop and an internet connection and I would create from anywhere in the world. With that mindset I realized that I could live in Modesto, CA and create on the level that those in the more tech savvy areas do. Because I live in a smaller town, my overhead is less. Today I have a 4200 square foot office which comes at a cost equal to what a desk at a coworking space in one of these larger cities would cost me. I am close to my family, which is important for me now that I have children. At times I do wish that I could raise my kids in a more interesting location than Modesto, but I would rather them have close ties to their Grandparents and Cousins than live next to the beach or something like that. Who knows, maybe my entire family will relocate one day, but for now, Modesto is ok and I am making it work.

What I really wanted to say here is that you don’t have to move away in order to jumpstart your life. You can make whatever you want of yourself from virtually any location these days if you go about it right. The internet is bigger than the City of Angels. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have anything against Los Angeles. I almost moved to Southern California, but it wasn’t for opportunity, it was for a change of scenery. Living in the “valley” can kind of get dull over time but living here also allows me to travel more frequently.

Over the last several years I have seen a lot of startup companies coming from other places than Silicon Valley or areas with similar communities. Opportunity does not live in a certain location any longer. We all (almost) have an internet connection and can reach the same people regardless of location. There is no reason not to start something where you are now. For most, moving will not do anything other than delay your plans as you acclimate your life to a new location, job and whatever else is required.

There is nothing wrong with adventure and trying something new. For those who are considering moving, I say go for it, but don’t leave the good things you have behind. At the end of it all, you just have your family. My family is not perfect but they are great and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. Knowing now what I didn’t know 5-10 years ago, I would miss the connections I have with my family if I had moved. Regardless of what you do, you need to be self-motivated before you make any decisions. Living in some other area is not going to change you if you are inherently a lazy person. Don’t increase your daily cost of living just for an idea or concept that worked for someone else. Create your own change and opportunity and do it on your own terms. Whether you do that in your current town or in Los Angeles does not matter. Just don’t make a location be the determining factor in your success. Some of the biggest rising Youtube Stars are from weird noname towns.

What do you think? I know that some will be more liberal about this than I am. I recognize the fact that I am overly ambitious and more introverted at times. Some people can not thrive unless they can integrate into the stream. I’m interested to hear what others have to say about opportunity and your physical location in this world.


  • Mike
    November 6, 2013 at 2:12 pm

    I actually grew up in Turlock and moved to LA. I loved this film, it reminded me of all the reasons I love LA. Moving from Turlock to LA, was an amazing experience for me, because I was able to connect with so many creative, like-minded people once I got there. For me, there was something magical about being in this city around people from all over the world, who were trying to chase their dreams. As an artist, I find a lot of inspiration from being around creative minds and this video was so sincere. Thanks for sharing

  • jeradhill
    November 6, 2013 at 3:15 pm

    Thanks Mike, and thanks for sharing your perspective and for understanding mine. I agree that there is something about being around others who are ambitious and chasing their dreams. When I go to conferences or networking events or even just get together with groups of people who think like I do it is refreshing and motivating.

  • marsuzter
    November 7, 2013 at 12:49 am

    I loved this post! I am a native Los Angeleno. Born and raised. Currently living in the “Valley.” But I have always wanted to move away from here, because it is definitely not the same place as where I grew up. I miss that place, but it doesn’t exist anymore. Things, people and places change. This post meant alot to me because of my desire to move out of L.A. to a “real” place. L.A. is not a “real” place per say. Not the “real” USA. I want a more normal life. But like you wrote here, you can make your life anywhere. Just be smart about it. The cost of living here in L.A. is ridiculous. The cost of housing is killing me, but I am very used to it. But it doesn’t let me do much of anything else, like travel, buy things, and move up. My immediate family lives here, but my extended family lives in NorCal. So I have some thinking to do. Thanks for the food for though Jerad!

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