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Dating and Relationships.

I have been reading so much awesome stuff being said on Myspace lately about dating and relationships…. I completely agree with a lot of it. God saved me from what would have been a tragic marriage. I was engaged to a non believer and in a relationship for almost 4 years. God saved me from all of this because I know He has a plan for my life. A lot of talk has gone on about dating and how do you find someone if you do not date. I have even had some extended discussions over the topic of dating. I do not believe that dating is wrong but in many ways I do not believe it is right either. Here is my take. So many people use dating as a process of elimination. A date or two with a person and they find out a bit about them, decide they do not like them and move on to the next prospect. After they have been hurt a few times then the idea of dating is not so appealing and they realize that getting to know a person as a friend first with no dating tendencies at all is the best way to go. You sometimes here someone say, “I married my best friend.” Well that might be the case for some but how can you marry your best friend if you were not friends in the first place? If you sit down and think about it, we as believers have it so much easier then the rest of the world. We are so much more then friends in the first place. Have you ever noticed that when you talk to another believer for a small amount of time it feels like you have known them forever? That is an amazing connection that we all have through Christ. I get really lonely sometimes and it makes it harder because I was so used to having someone there for several years but I have comfort in Gods plan for me. I might not know what it is yet or when for that matter but I know it will happen. I might not be completely right with God and He wants more of my attention before He brings someone into my life. Here is something to think about… Why don’t you put all the time you spend checking out the opposite sex, dreaming about the perfect mate, wishing you had a boy or girlfriend and put it into your walk with Christ. I do not even like the term single because we are never single when we have God. I wish Myspace had an option to choose called “committed.” I am committed to Christ until He gives me someone to share the life He has given me with. God has His perfect timing and when that time comes He will show me. Through Myspace and my blog website I have met some awesome believers that I talk to almost daily online. It is very important to surround yourself with your brothers and sisters in Christ. If you have enough fellowship in your life then you won’t be lonely. Get into a group at a Church in your community if you are not already in one. The college group that I go to is awesome. There are so many amazing people in it. We have been going through Song of Solomon all summer and it has touched me in so many ways. Worship and Fellowship with people your age is so important. I too have had a lot of friends getting married and have been to 8 weddings this summer, very depressing, lol. I rejoice knowing that God had a plan that was put into work before I was even thought of which led me to serve Him daily bringing me closer to the day I will be serving Him along side an amazing Christian Woman as her husband. The closer I get to God, the closer I will get to what I believe is one of His most amazing gifts to us besides His grace. We as “single” people have so much to thank the Lord for. He has given us more time to grow in our walk and become stronger before meeting the person we will spend the rest of our lives with. Is that not amazing that God is giving us more time to grow so that we could glorify Him all the more? I am thankful to be single right now, the closer I get to God the better husband I will someday make. You are not lonely and in need of companionship, God is right there next to you; open your eyes.

God bless all of you.


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  • Rachel
    September 6, 2005 at 3:49 pm

    I wholeheartedly agree with your latest blog on waiting for God’s timing and for Him to pick that person who will complement you in Christ and eventually be your Spiritual Partner. I know what you are saying about dating, it seems like a paradigm to marry your best friend when did you date them or were you best friends first?? But I think we are the ones who make it complicated. Simplifying to just wait on God to handle the details is the best way. It is good that I have a friend like you to bring up these points, to remind me how simple it is when we rely on God.

  • Karen
    September 6, 2005 at 11:05 pm

    Well I wanted to begin with commending you on being so incredibly honest about what is going on and how you feel about it…even if it is just a thought. I think the blogs that you have written lately have said a whole lot about who you are really and what you represent. You are truly a man of God and that is really encouraging. I am so very encouraged as much by what you have written as talking to you on AIM. I have shared many of the stories or just blogs that you have written because I think that they would benefit others as much as it has benefitted myself. I know that many guys get a bad rap because other guys have ruined the whole “nice guy image” because they have been very selfish or just uncaring but there are really some great guys out there. I think whether male or female I think that if one knows Christ they tend to love others a bit more and think about others more often. So I just wanted to tell you and encourage you to keep on doing what you are doing I just know that you have really helped many people to think about their actions and maybe/hopefully even change them. I hope that you are having a really great day. I will continue to pray for you just knowing that God is just smiling down knowing that His child is making Him so very proud. I am so thankful that God puts people in our lives to help us understand how truly amazing He really is.
    In His Strength~
    Psalm 138
    “Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life; you stretch out your hand against the anger of my foes, with your right hand you save me. The Lord WILL fulfill His purpose for me; your love, O Lord , endures forever-do not abandon the works of your hands.”

  • Jerad
    January 23, 2006 at 10:42 pm

    Received this email today on my myspace removed the name of the person tho 😉

    Hello Jerad, my name is *******, I came across your profile while in search of something else. To be honest with you after reading your blogs, I kinda forgot what it was. But I do have to say I am blown away by your faith in the Lord. I have back slidden so many times because of my single status, thinking that the only way I might be able to meet someone with your beliefs and outlook would be to put myself out in the clubs and settle for what may have come along. I was almost convinced that true men of God really didn’t exist unless of course they are already married. But after reading some of your blogs I can say that you have given new hope to that out look. Also you reminded me that it is the Lord that I should be looking to for all my needs. Alot of times I think I can handle it by myself until of course I fall flat on my face. LOL. But without sounding like a weirdo, thank you. And I did read about getting together with groups and such, and that is a great idea, but unfortunatley I live in a small town, and well I am pretty much too old for any college gatherings, so I am hoping that I might be able to read more of your thoughts and inputs. I often am left in aww when the Lord uses people to remind others of His word. Thanks again, and if this sounded weird sorry.. lol.

  • Jaqueline
    January 31, 2006 at 8:25 pm

    I have just finished reading your blog on ‘dating’ and I have to hand it to you. I couldn’t have said it better myself. I also want to thank you very much for writing it. The Lord has been dealing with me lately on this very subject. He has been ringing it loudly, (and after reading your blog, even louder), into my heart that I NEED to take advantage of the time I have and get CLOSER to Him. Also, He’s been letting me know, in so many words, that the reason I haven’t found the man He’s made for me is that I’m not ready, spiritually, for him. So, once again, thank you for writing this. I feel that God lead me to your blog to cement in me what He’s been trying to tell me for a while now.

    God bless you according to His everlasting mercy and grace,
    Jaqueline :o)

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